Credit: Jason Weiss for Fredi
Have you ever found yourself micro obsessing over the accomplishments of someone else?
Almost as if, their work and their efforts are so unique and un-replicable that you can only view from afar? Of course! Because it’s easy to feel inadequate in world of glamorized achievers.
It’s easy to look up at those who have “made it”, and feel it is far out of reach.
For a long time, I felt this sense that everyone was already out there lapping me as if they were finishing a full marathon achieving and conquering their ambitions, while I was stuck in a whimsy 5K run. That couldn’t possibly be me out there? That was only saved for special kinds of people, right?
But how wrong and ignorant I was.
"It's easy to feel inadequate in a world of glamorized achievers."
I realized everyone reaching this “peak” that I idolized in my head, all started with nothing. They all started with zero recognition, very little talent, and no accolades. But what they did have was the drive to create their own journey. They committed to doing whatever it took to reach their goals.
So who’s to say that can’t be me? Or better yet, you? The truth is, and perhaps one of the best truths I have learned, is that the only roadblock keeping you from the person you want to become, is yourself.
It can feel sometimes as if there isn’t enough room in the world for your uniqueness to shine, but this couldn’t be farther from the truth. You must rid yourself of constant comparison. You must rid yourself of constant comparison, because if you don’t you risk missing out on all that your journey has in front of you.
Next time you are hung up comparing yourself remember this:
Someone else’s success does not take away from your own chance at success
It is not a competition. Despite the positive end-result a little healthy competition can bring, we live in a world where there is room for everyone at the top, including you. The world is constantly replenishing with new ideas, new perspectives, and new need for someone like you to step up to the plate.
Someone else’s accomplishments do not diminish what you are able to achieve
There is no need to view someone else’s accolades as a replacement for your own. Because no two individuals story to accomplishing something is ever the same. They are special, and exclusive to you. it’s how you experience life and how you share your message and attributes to the world, and that, can never be identical to another’s.
Someone else’s journey should not be more important than your own
The second you feel you are chasing after something that isn’t authentically yours, you will not feel satisfied. You will never find an end goal chasing someone else’s life, dreams, thoughts. Because it’s not yours. Because in the end, the only person you should be living for is yourself.
"The second you feel you are chasing after something that isn’t authentically yours, you will not feel satisfied."
Maybe once you begin to believe in your own potential, you won’t feel the need to constantly peak into someone else’s lane. Maybe instead of filling your mind with all that you aren’t, you can begin to appreciate all that you are. Maybe you realize your weaknesses are just foundations to grow upon. Maybe today is the day you stop doubting yourself and start putting a little fuel into those ideas of yours.
Maybe you do or maybe you don’t, but remember, it is not someone else who will halt you from finding your path to success. No matter how much you compare yourself to someone else, it is you who holds the power of making the life you desire happen.