Escapism can be crippling to your long term happiness.
Have you ever started a new job at some point in life, and almost immediately found yourself researching job posts merely a week later? Of course! Because often when we start something new, or contrarily stay with something for a while, we get complacent and our minds wander to the “What else?”, or the “is this it?” questions.
We live in a world where gratification comes and goes like the sun and the moon. We live in the digital age with more information and access to the world than any generation before. Practically anything you want in life can be either bought, or researched and learned, at your fingertips.
"I find it doesn’t always matter where you are or what you are doing, but how you do it and the effort you consciously give."
With all that power and opportunity in life, it can catapult you to success and enable you to chase your passions. However, it can also enable your desire to chase everything, and perhaps everyone.
I too used to think, maybe if I move here, or maybe if I change my job to this, or maybe if I completely rebrand my persona and become a Buddhist, I will be the best version of myself. While yes, I could opt for all of those changes and still be ecstatic and living my best life, it would be difficult because I would be in a state of constant flight mode. Ready for the next best thing. Never fully settling into one endeavor. Never giving it my 100%.
I remember I had this epiphany right before graduating high school. The desire to move across the country was intense. I could start a new life, go by a nickname, and be away from those I spent my childhood from, but why? Was it something that was truly going to make a long lasting positive impact for my life, or did I want this just to feel the desire of something new, just because I could?
I find it doesn’t always matter where you are or what you are doing, but how you do it and the effort you consciously give.
"You need to be open to the possibility of making it work."
Now, if something is causing you immense amounts of stress, or not enhancing your life and fulfilling your soul in even the slightest way, stop it, leave, and walk away.
But this is more geared to the times you can’t seem to find happiness simply because you are preventing yourself from living in the moment. We often don’t ask ourselves the tough questions before making a drastic change:
Why am I doing this? Is it because I am truly unhappy? Or is it because I am trying to escape my current problem? Is my current state or situation fixable? Have I given it 100% of my effort to make it work?
Whether it’s a relationship, a hobby you’re trying to kick start into a business, or a town that you just moved to, you need to be open to the possibility of making it work. We glamorize those who take off on a one-way flight to Bali to travel the world on an influencer Income, but the truth is, this will not be the lifestyle for everyone.
"You need to let yourself fully embrace a situation, person, or thing and give it 100% before you label it being insufficient."
Therefore, you need to let yourself fully embrace a situation, person, or thing and give it 100% before you label it being insufficient. Otherwise, you will constantly be in pursuit for the next best thing, never fully finding happiness in your current state. Know when to walk away, and if you don’t need to, keep pushing onwards and give it your best.